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vrdantwind: (If I'm right here with you)
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"Hey, this is Claude! Pretty sure I'm doing this correctly. You can leave me a message here, and I'll get to it as soon as I can. Talk to you soon~."

Date: 2021-02-17 08:44 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (earnest)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
From what I can tell--and admittedly, this is from someone who did not actually *finish* reading Homestuck which is hella long and unfortunately contains troll typing quirks--Dirk's tendency to be as shady as hell is something leftover from his mortal live(s) and possibly not anything he can help. He also has bountiful issues with control--and I say this as someone who's a closet control freak *myself*. I can see why he'd think you were the trespassers if he hadn't known you were friends with her yet--and if he expected the house to be empty and the door locked, I can see why he'd also leap straight to picking that lock.

Still, that *is* a terrible second meeting. Not something that can't be recovered from--I met Shinobu back in my world when he was breaking into *my* apartment on my dead sister's behalf and he's one of my more important friends here--but something that takes effort on the parts of both parties to overcome.

That said, good intentions but condescending approach is very *much* how Emet-Selch operates. He's not only a god, but a god with the personality of an irritable college professor who asks pointed questions to stimulate critical thought and doesn't care if you like him as long as you *learn*. It takes time to get used to him at his Emet-Selch-iest and I absolutely do not blame you for losing your patience. If that's your first exposure to his attitude, I absolutely do not blame you for misinterpreting him. Honestly, you're doing a better job of dealing with him than I did.

Granted, I was hella PTSD at the time for a variety of reasons and Emet had himself just come off a long stint of method acting as the Worst Person In The World in order to test mortals--as one does as a god, I suppose--and most of Emperor Solus zos Galvus' mannerisms and attitude were clinging hard to him... but still, you were able to figure out he was operating from good faith on your own and I needed Hythlodaeus to guide me to that conclusion and not until I went through something like two months of therapy with him first.

But yes, you're definitely on the right track with Emet. From my experience, what he wants most is for mortals to show they're capable of considering other viewpoints and try to make peace with each other. Believe me, if my relationship with him could recover to the extent it has given all the bullshit I pulled on him last summer--including one ill-considered attempt at psychological warfare--then yours will recover from one conversation's worth of misunderstanding. You're showing flexibility of thought in admitting you misread him and Emet loves it when mortals do that.

No clue about Dirk, though. Indulging his bullshit grandstanding does help, but it's not a guarantee. I've made a lot of missteps with him myself, particularly before I fell asleep for a week and went home for six and a half years. (Including, I suppose, thinking we were better friends than we actually were... but I'd rather not get into that.)

Anyway. Gods are condescending assholes: who would have thought? It doesn't matter if they're a very old god that's always been a god (Emet-Selch) or a much more recent god that probably started out as mortal (Dirk.) As far as I can tell, it's endemic to the condition.

Date: 2021-02-17 05:46 pm (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (upfront)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
Emet-Selch's former fiance and the third man in that set of pictures. They were separated when Amaurot (the ancestral home of Emet's race of gods) fell and Hythlodaeus ended up dying in the process. And then he ended up here, about a month after Emet did and eons after his death from Emet's perspective, and you have no *idea* how much ridiculous drama ensued between him and Emet and Dirk as a result, thanks to Emet trying to have his cake and eat it too.

But yes, Solus is Emet-Selch is [REDACTED]. Emet-Selch is his title from Amaurot. He had a personal name, which Hythlo has told me in confidence, but prefers not to use it with strangers. Emperor Solus zos Galvus of Garlemand is the name he was going by when he first got here, as it was the identity of the last role he took on to tempt and test mortals. It took until Hythlodaeus got here for most of us to even *hear* the name 'Emet-Selch,' so a lot of people who met him before that think of him as 'Solus' because that's the name they were introduced to him by.

I don't, entirely because of how bad and contentious things got between him and I last summer. The name 'Solus' for me is too badly associated with the man I believed he was, who turned out to be the role he hadn't yet shed by our first encounter and someone he despised nearly as much as I did. 'Solus' is the man who repeatedly made me flashback to the worst time in my life, who drove me to fits of mental desperation that resulted in me shoving him down stairs when he was trying to force a conversation by blocking them and later led to me attempting the aforementioned ill-considered psychological warfare.

*Emet*, however, is a tired old man with a penchant for drama and terribly high-standards, who reminds me of my grandfather more often than not. It's a method of reframing, I suppose.

But yes. That's Dirk Strider and his terrible attitude to a goddamn T. I consider myself to be friends (if not close ones) with the man and his hypocrisy when it comes to accepting that other people have complex motivations that disagree with his own is one of the most irritating facets of a man who is in fact *extremely* irritating (if ultimately rewarding) to know.

As someone who (while not the smartest member of my family) hasn't usually considered myself to be a idiot either, I understand very well how hard it is to deal with Dirk's attitude gracefully. Before I knew he was a god, I had a *lot* of trouble not blowing up at him for it. Now... well, I try to grit my teeth and put on my agreeable face, then when the conversation is over I go off to the gym--or more recently find my boyfriend--and attempt to physically work out my frustration and aggression until I exhaust myself.
Edited Date: 2021-02-20 02:41 am (UTC)

Date: 2021-02-20 03:39 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (upfront)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
... I meant by sparring, not by sex. Not that sparring doesn't often lead to sex with us, but I'd rather not go to bed with him angry if possible, even if it's with someone else. It feels like setting a bad precedent.

As far as Emet and Hythlo's story... there's a lot I'm actually *not* telling you? I feel like if they knew I've told you what I have, they'd roll their eyes and maybe make a comment about me being a gossip... but honestly, Hythlodaeus is just as bad. He's the reason I know a lot of this.

As far as Dimitri goes, trying to convince him that the self that did horrific acts and his other self are two different people is a *terrible* idea. I'm sorry, Claude, but it is. And yes, I *know* you acknowledge it is, but I need to stress how bad it really is. I understand the temptation to, because it's hard knowing that the people you love (in whatever fashion) are capable of such acts, but sometimes people *are*. And trying to make him think of his prior self as a different man altogether is just asking for him to dissociate. It'll foster a sense of unreality that will *mess him up*. Trust me on this.

I get that it hurts for you to hear him call himself a monster. But while it's not *healthy* that he is, it does show that he understands what he did was awful and he grieves doing it. And that's good for *him*. It's better he knows than he thinks everything awful thing he did was perfectly fine, because he's the hero. That's how you get people like Handsome Jack.

As someone who's felt like a monster at various points in his life, what helped me was to say to myself something like, "Okay, I'm a monster, but am I a monster that preys upon people or a monster that protects them? How can I be a monster that can do good? Or at least bad things with good outcomes?" I don't know if that'll help Dimitri, but it might. It'll focus him on the future, at least, and not the past he can't change.

(That said, I don't mind the digression at all. And I do get the need for *you* to separate them in your mind.)

Dirk is worth knowing even though he's a pain in the ass, because... well, for one thing, you'll have some interesting as hell conversations. He's very knowledgeable as well as being very opinionated--and while his opinions can be stupid, he's usually got the facts straight. Sometimes he's very funny (and sometimes he's really *not*.) And he's actually quite capable of being kind, despite everything. He'll obscure it in bullshit, of course, but that's just his way. He's usually willing to help people if they ask him to--and when he does, he's very capable at it. So yeah. He's an asshole, but the kind that's worth it.

Date: 2021-02-24 08:08 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (unsure)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
You did. You did conclude it was a bad plan and I probably didn't need to spend all those paragraphs expanding on why it was such a bad plan. I just-- Oh, I don't know. I just have feelings about culpability and how one moves on after doing reprehensible things. And... you're right that I might have gotten my feelings about Jack mixed up into things, admittedly. Or rather, my feelings about my own... I'm not sure what the right word should be. That is to say, when I was with Jack I found out about various things he did before coming here and *I* gave him a free pass on all of them until I found out it had led to him doing something *I* found unforgivable--when a better man might have left long ago. *I* was the one who re-categorized such things as 'okay.'

(He hasn't done most of it yet, if it helps you or your friends when it comes to interacting with Baby Jack.)

But about Dimitri... are you saying he was *possessed*?


[That seems to be what Claude is implying, anyway. Which is a bit worrying, but hopefully if Dimitri did have any passengers, they were left behind when he came here.]

Regarding Dirk and his idiosyncratic way of speaking... I've known the man for a year and I'm still not sure which of the three options is accurate.

[Honestly, Steven blames Andrew Hussie.]

Date: 2021-02-24 11:00 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (concerned)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
I'm sure you're right about Dirk.

And I do understand how I let all that other stuff slide, because I was at a fairly low point in my life and found it hard to care about anyone past a very small circle of people and the things I found out about he mostly did to people in his own world and time. I'm just-- irritated with myself *anyway*.

(I do hope I'm not boring you by talking about my issues about him, by the way. You're just-- well, easier to talk to about this sometimes, because you got here about when the Jack *I* knew disappeared and so you don't have any preconceptions about him, which nearly everyone else does.)

But I understand, I think. He broke for a while due to what he endured and he's managed to reconstruct his old self from the pieces, as much as he possibly could. I've been through that as well. Nothing so horrible as what you're describing, but I had my own five years of hell once and I had to do a lot of reconstructing of myself too.

But honestly, it's not up to me to determine whether or not Dimitri's madness born of trauma was an excuse or not. It's not up to you either. It's up to Dimitri and Dimitri alone to make that decision. I'm happy to believe that Dimitri's a changed man now. I *like* Dimitri, Claude. I really do. We talked when he first visited Fight Club and I was impressed by what a sweet, thoughtful guy he is. I'd like to talk with him again.

But I still hold myself culpable for what I did during my own five years of hell and I understand why Dimitri might continue to hold himself culpable too.

Date: 2021-03-01 07:09 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (inform)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
*Oh*. You're right, we were talking at cross-purposes. Acknowledging that he wasn't in his right mind when he made those decisions isn't a bad thing to do, no. It won't change the fact that he did them, but it'll help him remember that he won't necessarily be liable to repeat them without those particular traumatic circumstances.

You're also right that everything with Jack does loom large in my mind, which I'm still a bit frustrated about. For me, it's been six, nearly seven years, but as soon as I woke up on Armin's houseboat in this world again, it was almost as if nothing had changed but me. I can only credit it to getting my memories of this world back--and of course, the entire mess with Jack had been entirely on my mind when I fell asleep on Armin's houseboat.

Just-- being messed up about Jack was my past self's problem. Why is it still mine? Is it just that I'm angry at myself for putting in more effort than he ever did? Is it that I'm still furious at how even at my lowest point, hurting someone I loved would be break me and he did it without even realizing it was *wrong*? I remember being terrified of him before I went home, because if he could (and would and did) hurt people he loved for power, then *I* certainly wasn't safe--the only reason I wasn't terrified when I woke up was that I'd had all those years of sharpening my skills that I was reasonably sure that I could easily defend myself from him, at least on a physical basis. Maybe I just still feel like I was played for a sucker in every aspect of our relationship.

In a way, I got out of a very messy break-up by him disappearing while I was asleep. In another way, I never got the closure I needed, even if it would have come with our hands around each other's throats.

(I'm sorry. I really didn't mean for this to turn into another round of me ranting about my ex- that I've had trouble getting over. That this happens with *all* my significant exes makes it worse, not better.)
Edited Date: 2021-03-01 07:10 am (UTC)

understood!

Date: 2021-03-06 08:00 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (Default)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
I mean, the thing is that I *do* have someone I should talk to this about. I've got a friend who basically volunteered to serve as my ad hoc therapist since summer. I see him for a few hours around noon every Wednesday. I just-- haven't been talking to him about *that* so much, because a lot of what I'd been doing with him was reconstructing myself from what was left after *I* broke, which was some time before I came here the first time.

(I think you're right that everyone has a point at which they're broken. I know when mine was.)

But yes. I did have one of those 'canon updates' as Dirk calls them and since then it's been-- difficult. Mostly because I changed in quite a few ways in those six years and with most people I met before I 'updated' I sometimes feel the unconscious pressure to revert to the younger self they'd be more familiar with in their company. There's a few exceptions, such as with Thace, but for the most part it's a thing. That might be why I enjoy talking to you and your friends. You've never known the old me.

Date: 2021-03-11 05:56 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (harmless)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
Mm. It's complicated. I didn't go to war or anything. I did become a more dangerous person.

I don't think my essential, core self is that very different, save that I was a broken man when I came here and by the time I returned, I'd managed to repair myself as much as possible. It's just-- behaviors, I guess.

I suppose one way to explain it was that as a young man, as a member of a minority population that often experiences institutionalized discrimination--and as one who is fairly solidly built besides--I developed habits of body-language built around... well. Minimizing the space I took up. Making myself appear smaller. Non-threatening.

I was still doing that when I was first here and when I fell asleep in Armin's houseboat. I'd stopped doing that in those six years I was home, not the least because my position in my community of survivors *relies* on me being able to present myself as a threat if need be--and over those six years I'd amassed a good deal of skills to back it up.

Now I catch myself going back to those old habits and it's very frustrating.
Edited (Taking code OUT for once) Date: 2021-03-13 01:02 pm (UTC)

Date: 2021-03-19 08:07 pm (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (stiff)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
[... Steven is maybe going to guess Grant, but only because he's also not white.]

Not *only*, but so much more often than with other people. And it's just-- it's irritating. When I find myself slipping into my old habits of holding myself, it's *irritating*. And frustrating.

I've been thinking about *why* I do it and I wonder if I'm responding to people's expectations of me too. Not even necessarily conscious ones? But when you get to know someone, you start expecting them to act a certain way. Just, well, consistent with how they have before. If someone starts suddenly holding themself differently, you'd notice right? It would be really weird, wouldn't it?


[A thought strikes him and Steven swears out loud.]

My first time here, one of my best friends was a man named Tyler, about your age. We were from the same world, even though we never met each other there. I know now that he went to university with my friend Gil back home, but the first time I was here, I hadn't met Gil yet.

But here's the thing: Tyler hates when people change on him.

And here's the other thing: technically, I came back here once during the six years I was away. It was a weird weekend, the first one, and I didn't *remember* being here before at that time. It happened *months* before I even fell asleep and got 'canon updated.' But I did encounter myself as I am now (technically myself as I was a year ago from my perspective) and I remember the old me being a mix of envious and jealous of the me I am now, because he seemed like he had everything together in a way that I didn't--though I suppose it went both ways, as me a year ago envied the old me for being happily in love, not realizing how shaky a foundation that love rested upon. Basically, the entire thing was timeline shenanigans and a complete headache for both old me and me-a-year-ago.

The point is, me-a-year-ago ended up encountering Tyler and he *hated* me almost instantly, because I wasn't the Steven he expected me to be, but some new and different asshole.

Tyler disappeared about a week after I got back from my 'canon update.' I hadn't had a chance to have a real talk with him since said update? Honestly, I'd been dreading doing it. And then it never happened. Because he was gone.

And I just realized, just now, that possibly the whole Tyler thing has a *lot* to do with why I feel tempted to slip back into the old me with people I used to know.

Date: 2021-03-23 04:28 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (serious)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
[Well, we're not entirely sure if Steven really realizes that Grant's a werewolf and not just a very attractive bear.]

... ah hell. I think you're *right*. I really do. Especially since... well, the whole thing with Tyler happened. And I know Tyler's been uniquely traumatized in his own way and not everyone will react so badly to change... but even if I know that consciously, I think my subconscious mind is just-- expecting people to react that badly anyway now. And I just need to start actively fighting back against it.

I mean, hell, I used to have the same reaction only in reverse to Shinobu, before I got 'updated.' I knew he knew me in the future and I always felt so awkward with him because I was sure he was expecting my older self, even though he's always tried to treat my past self like a different person than the self I am now. And now he's one of the few people I feel really *knows* me now, because I'm the one he met a year ago in our world.

(It's a funny story, actually, involving him getting talked into stealing my DVDs by my sister's ghost and me threatening him for the attempted break-in, but don't worry, everyone's friends now. Including all the ghosts involved.)
fingersandteeth: (listening)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
You have no idea.

But yes, actually, that *has* been a life-long problem for me. It was even worse when I was younger, given how badly men who love other men were regarded when I first came of age. Between my ethnic group and my sexuality, I've always had to worry about other people's perceptions.

I thought I was finally growing out of always needing to play to my audience. I really did. And I'm just so damn frustrated that evidently I haven't. Not here.

(I even got a damn Indeedee card on the subject, from Emet. It was kind of a kick in the gut to read, but he wasn't *wrong*.)
fingersandteeth: (!mien)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
I don't have this issue with Thace, no. But Thace knows where my bodies are buried. (In a metaphorical sense, I mean, obviously, since any bodies I'd have would be back home and we're from different worlds.) He doesn't have any illusions about the kind of person I am and hasn't since... well, since I went to him for advice when everything started going wrong with Jack and then blew up at him when I thought Thace was treating me like a child or a naif over it all. But obviously I can't go around telling *everyone* these things. The only reason I could *then* was because Thace was already one of my closest friends, he knew a few things already that he hadn't condemned me for, and I was fully prepared to lose him over him knowing everything I'd done at that point. And then, after I came back, I told him the rest of it.

And Shinobu, who is the only other person I trust as much as Thace now, knows exactly who and what I *am* back home. I've explained my position to Thace and I've hinted at it to a few people--I told the less controversial part of it to Carly and gave abbreviated explanations to Hythldaeus and Emet-Selch--but most people? They don't know. Or they know something of *what* I am, like Armin does, but not the position I serve.

Back home? Everyone in my community of survivors knows. They know *what* I am, because none of us are human anymore. And they know what I *do*, because it's an open secret that I do it. And yes, some of them fear me for it, as well they should, but that's the price of serving and protecting my community in that fashion. I don't regret it. I don't regret anything I've done for their safety.

And I'm talking circles around what that *is*, what I *am* and what I *do*, aren't I? Well, that's the whole point. Not being human anymore is the *easiest* part of it to talk about and it's taken me this long to even *mention* it to you. As for the rest?


[And Steven stares at the screen for a long moment before he finally types,]

I'm my monarch's assassin and executioner. I have been for the last three years. It's not something you can just bring *up* with people. Hell, I'm taking a gamble telling you *now*.

[And then he presses send before he can talk himself out of it.]

Date: 2021-04-08 06:53 am (UTC)
fingersandteeth: (!mien)
From: [personal profile] fingersandteeth
Well, I don't suppose they would be in most ordinary communities. Changelings, which is what in fact I am, are different.

I don't know if your world has the Fair Folk in it, but the easiest way to explain is that there's powerful otherworldly entities that live in a realm distinct from but also adjacent to everyday reality and they often kidnap people for their own uncanny purposes--and their realms shape us into creatures that aren't actually human any longer, even as we have magic to fake it in the company of normal humans.

Almost twelve years ago, I was one of the humans they stole away. And almost seven years ago, I escaped with five of my friends, although my five years away broke me in the process. I'm not for the most part broken *now*--but it was slow-going at points.

Changelings can see through the illusions that make us appear as normal to ordinary mortals. It helps us find each other. We have a tendency to form communities of various sizes in the wake of our experiences, called Freeholds. I'm from a large city, with well over a million people living there--even as rare as we Changelings are, that makes for a local Freehold population well into three figures.

I suppose you could consider it a secret sub-population living among the greater population of ordinary mortals? Officially the government of the land that I'm from knows nothing about us. Unofficially... they still very well may know nothing.

Each Freehold divides itself into 'Courts' of like-minded Changelings according to how we cope with our captivity and newfound freedom. The Courts share governance of the Freehold community, either geographically or temporally, depending on which system a Freehold follows, and each Court has a monarch, who best embodies the ideals of the Court. There are various other positions with the Court that people can fill.

The Autumn Court, which I am a part of, traditionally has a position which is poetically called 'the Barrow-Tender' or sometimes the 'ghul.' A Barrow-Tender's job is to protect the Freehold through killing those who threaten it, both inside and outside the community. When those threats come from outside the community, I'm an assassin. When they come from inside the community, I'm an executioner. Since it's not an excessively large community, I don't get deployed very often, but I usually am a few times each year and not always during my Court's season--though it's an Autumn job, our monarchs tend to share us with the other seasonal monarchs.

Freeholds, even in the largest cities, generally don't end up being *too* large themselves. I suppose when you've less than a thousand people, combining both roles into one whose job description is 'killing threats' makes sense. And believe me, Claude, the threats I killed *were* nasty pieces of work, one and all of them. I don't regret a single one.

Still, I'm glad you *do* understand, Claude. If you put this kind of thought into governing your father's country, you'll be a very *good* king, I think. One I can only hope to be as good as, should the Ashen Crown ever pass to me--although if it does, I'll likely have an easier time, with so many fewer subjects.

(And yes, actually, you *did* communicate things well enough and you have a point too.)
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