From what I can tell--and admittedly, this is from someone who did not actually *finish* reading Homestuck which is hella long and unfortunately contains troll typing quirks--Dirk's tendency to be as shady as hell is something leftover from his mortal live(s) and possibly not anything he can help. He also has bountiful issues with control--and I say this as someone who's a closet control freak *myself*. I can see why he'd think you were the trespassers if he hadn't known you were friends with her yet--and if he expected the house to be empty and the door locked, I can see why he'd also leap straight to picking that lock.
Still, that *is* a terrible second meeting. Not something that can't be recovered from--I met Shinobu back in my world when he was breaking into *my* apartment on my dead sister's behalf and he's one of my more important friends here--but something that takes effort on the parts of both parties to overcome.
That said, good intentions but condescending approach is very *much* how Emet-Selch operates. He's not only a god, but a god with the personality of an irritable college professor who asks pointed questions to stimulate critical thought and doesn't care if you like him as long as you *learn*. It takes time to get used to him at his Emet-Selch-iest and I absolutely do not blame you for losing your patience. If that's your first exposure to his attitude, I absolutely do not blame you for misinterpreting him. Honestly, you're doing a better job of dealing with him than I did.
Granted, I was hella PTSD at the time for a variety of reasons and Emet had himself just come off a long stint of method acting as the Worst Person In The World in order to test mortals--as one does as a god, I suppose--and most of Emperor Solus zos Galvus' mannerisms and attitude were clinging hard to him... but still, you were able to figure out he was operating from good faith on your own and I needed Hythlodaeus to guide me to that conclusion and not until I went through something like two months of therapy with him first.
But yes, you're definitely on the right track with Emet. From my experience, what he wants most is for mortals to show they're capable of considering other viewpoints and try to make peace with each other. Believe me, if my relationship with him could recover to the extent it has given all the bullshit I pulled on him last summer--including one ill-considered attempt at psychological warfare--then yours will recover from one conversation's worth of misunderstanding. You're showing flexibility of thought in admitting you misread him and Emet loves it when mortals do that.
No clue about Dirk, though. Indulging his bullshit grandstanding does help, but it's not a guarantee. I've made a lot of missteps with him myself, particularly before I fell asleep for a week and went home for six and a half years. (Including, I suppose, thinking we were better friends than we actually were... but I'd rather not get into that.)
Anyway. Gods are condescending assholes: who would have thought? It doesn't matter if they're a very old god that's always been a god (Emet-Selch) or a much more recent god that probably started out as mortal (Dirk.) As far as I can tell, it's endemic to the condition.
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Date: 2021-02-17 08:44 am (UTC)Still, that *is* a terrible second meeting. Not something that can't be recovered from--I met Shinobu back in my world when he was breaking into *my* apartment on my dead sister's behalf and he's one of my more important friends here--but something that takes effort on the parts of both parties to overcome.
That said, good intentions but condescending approach is very *much* how Emet-Selch operates. He's not only a god, but a god with the personality of an irritable college professor who asks pointed questions to stimulate critical thought and doesn't care if you like him as long as you *learn*. It takes time to get used to him at his Emet-Selch-iest and I absolutely do not blame you for losing your patience. If that's your first exposure to his attitude, I absolutely do not blame you for misinterpreting him. Honestly, you're doing a better job of dealing with him than I did.
Granted, I was hella PTSD at the time for a variety of reasons and Emet had himself just come off a long stint of method acting as the Worst Person In The World in order to test mortals--as one does as a god, I suppose--and most of Emperor Solus zos Galvus' mannerisms and attitude were clinging hard to him... but still, you were able to figure out he was operating from good faith on your own and I needed Hythlodaeus to guide me to that conclusion and not until I went through something like two months of therapy with him first.
But yes, you're definitely on the right track with Emet. From my experience, what he wants most is for mortals to show they're capable of considering other viewpoints and try to make peace with each other. Believe me, if my relationship with him could recover to the extent it has given all the bullshit I pulled on him last summer--including one ill-considered attempt at psychological warfare--then yours will recover from one conversation's worth of misunderstanding. You're showing flexibility of thought in admitting you misread him and Emet loves it when mortals do that.
No clue about Dirk, though. Indulging his bullshit grandstanding does help, but it's not a guarantee. I've made a lot of missteps with him myself, particularly before I fell asleep for a week and went home for six and a half years. (Including, I suppose, thinking we were better friends than we actually were... but I'd rather not get into that.)
Anyway. Gods are condescending assholes: who would have thought? It doesn't matter if they're a very old god that's always been a god (Emet-Selch) or a much more recent god that probably started out as mortal (Dirk.) As far as I can tell, it's endemic to the condition.