I mean, I probably wouldn't tell you if he had just because one, if I pissed him off that much it'd probably be my own fault, and two, I can't see how tattling on him to his closest friend would make him any less inclined to punch me in the future. [Claude sounds faintly amused.] That said, though, no, he absolutely hasn't done that. Even though frankly, a few times, I've been bold enough about saying things he doesn't want to hear that I was bracing myself for it.
Nothing bad, mind you. A lot of it has been an outright refusal to accept his more toxic beliefs about himself as fact. But I haven't exactly minced words, and I am basically saying I think I know and understand him better than he understands himself. Which may very well be true - after all, I think an outsider's view can be more objective, and you and I both appreciate that a lot of the things he thinks about himself are just flat out false - but it's a pretty audacious claim to make. Especially coming from someone he doesn't know that well or like that much. And I'm sure you understand how unwelcome truths can anger people.
It really speaks well for him and his better nature that he's let me be as audacious and annoying to him as I have, and he hasn't resorted to violence against me. He really isn't inclined to hurt anyone unless it's necessary, is he? Well, that or he doesn't want to have to deal with the tongue-lashing you'd give him if he roughed up a friend of yours for being verbally aggravating.
Personally, though, I'm leaning towards that he's just a good man. One who has a lot more patience than I'm accustomed to people having, but then he is a lot older than anyone I'm used to talking to.
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Nothing bad, mind you. A lot of it has been an outright refusal to accept his more toxic beliefs about himself as fact. But I haven't exactly minced words, and I am basically saying I think I know and understand him better than he understands himself. Which may very well be true - after all, I think an outsider's view can be more objective, and you and I both appreciate that a lot of the things he thinks about himself are just flat out false - but it's a pretty audacious claim to make. Especially coming from someone he doesn't know that well or like that much. And I'm sure you understand how unwelcome truths can anger people.
It really speaks well for him and his better nature that he's let me be as audacious and annoying to him as I have, and he hasn't resorted to violence against me. He really isn't inclined to hurt anyone unless it's necessary, is he? Well, that or he doesn't want to have to deal with the tongue-lashing you'd give him if he roughed up a friend of yours for being verbally aggravating.
Personally, though, I'm leaning towards that he's just a good man. One who has a lot more patience than I'm accustomed to people having, but then he is a lot older than anyone I'm used to talking to.