I mean, I can get why he reacted the way he did readily enough, as far as that goes. It's more that he acted as though there was no reason for us to question him - like he didn't even look at things from our perspective and go "hmm, yeah, I can see why I might look sketchy to someone without all the facts under the circumstances". Which I feel like is his main attitude problem, really. He has all these myriad, complex reasons for what he does, I'm sure, but he doesn't give anyone else any credit for the same. He acts like the only reason anyone else ever does anything at all that he doesn't instantly, 100% agree with is because they're idiots who are being wrong because they've never had a thought in their life. That's the attitude I get off him.
One of the other things he criticized me - well, our entire group - for was for staying in Jane's house waiting for her to wake up, instead of leaving while she was unconscious. He acted like it was sketchy for us to do that. And honestly, I can see where he'd think that - definitely weird to have a pack of guys hovering around an unconscious woman on the face of it. But on a deeper level, well, we were all worried about her, and ditching her while she was sleeping for a week as though we had no investment in whether or not she ever woke up, so she would (as far as we knew) wake up alone and disoriented? That also seemed bad. Equally bad, at least. But even in a very subjective situation in which there are no great answers, whichever one Dirk arbitrarily decides is the correct one is the Objective Right Answer. I won't deny, that attitude of his gets under my skin in a way that not a lot does anymore. I've fielded actual death threats with more of a smile. I'm not sure why it's so hard to control my temper with him specifically.
Maybe I've spent too much time being considered smart to handle being treated like this much of an idiot - on what feels like baffling, if not outright subjective, grounds - too gracefully.
Wait, are Emet and Solus the same person, then? I was told to talk to a Solus about...oh, something awhile back, when I first arrived. Some sort of musing on people, I think. I think the guy indicated he'd talk my ear off about it...and he seemed to have some definite Opinions on the guy. Having talked to Emet now, I can see where that guy was coming from in a lot of ways.
I think things are going better with Emet now, at least. It sounds like, in broad strokes, he and I consider the same sorts of things our priorities, even if our methods and perspectives are vastly different in the details. With the kinds of things I want to achieve, it's important for me to figure out how to put that exact sort of thing into practice - seeing things from different points of view and respecting them, no matter how far outside my experience they might be. So if there's a path to that, I'll find it.
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One of the other things he criticized me - well, our entire group - for was for staying in Jane's house waiting for her to wake up, instead of leaving while she was unconscious. He acted like it was sketchy for us to do that. And honestly, I can see where he'd think that - definitely weird to have a pack of guys hovering around an unconscious woman on the face of it. But on a deeper level, well, we were all worried about her, and ditching her while she was sleeping for a week as though we had no investment in whether or not she ever woke up, so she would (as far as we knew) wake up alone and disoriented? That also seemed bad. Equally bad, at least. But even in a very subjective situation in which there are no great answers, whichever one Dirk arbitrarily decides is the correct one is the Objective Right Answer. I won't deny, that attitude of his gets under my skin in a way that not a lot does anymore. I've fielded actual death threats with more of a smile. I'm not sure why it's so hard to control my temper with him specifically.
Maybe I've spent too much time being considered smart to handle being treated like this much of an idiot - on what feels like baffling, if not outright subjective, grounds - too gracefully.
Wait, are Emet and Solus the same person, then? I was told to talk to a Solus about...oh, something awhile back, when I first arrived. Some sort of musing on people, I think. I think the guy indicated he'd talk my ear off about it...and he seemed to have some definite Opinions on the guy. Having talked to Emet now, I can see where that guy was coming from in a lot of ways.
I think things are going better with Emet now, at least. It sounds like, in broad strokes, he and I consider the same sorts of things our priorities, even if our methods and perspectives are vastly different in the details. With the kinds of things I want to achieve, it's important for me to figure out how to put that exact sort of thing into practice - seeing things from different points of view and respecting them, no matter how far outside my experience they might be. So if there's a path to that, I'll find it.
Who's Hythlodaeus?